Navigating Separation | Building a Bridge Between Home and School | City and Country School, New York

The separation and reunion processes are an important part of every child’s development from ages two to five.  While children are primarily dealing with separation during phase-in, separation is an important part of the preschool program throughout the year.  

We speak with each family to make individualized separation plans for each child and grown-up. Remember that each child’s separation will be different, and you should do your best not to compare your child to other children in the Group.

• Whenever you make your goodbye statement, follow through with the plan. Even if your child seems busy, please do not leave without saying goodbye. In addition to later separation difficulties, doing so may make it hard for your child to get engaged in work the next day because they may keep checking to see if you are still present.
• Children do their best when they arrive at school on time. For many children, entering an already full and busy room or the Roof can be a challenge.
• When school is over, your child reunites with their grown-up. This process can be just as important and tender as separation. We ask that you, your caregiver, or any grown-up who regularly comes to get your child from school makes sure to give them their complete and undivided attention. 
• As children transition out of the school day, sometimes they will feel emotional about leaving peers. Other times, they may recall something that came up during the day that caused them to have big feelings. Reunion is a time to reunite joyfully, while also listening to your child convey whatever might be on their mind as the school day comes to a close.

Frequently Asked Questions: 

Q: Can I bring my newborn to school during phase-in?

A: It can be challenging for children to separate and engage in their work when their younger sibling is present.  We ask that families find a plan that works best, which may mean leaving a baby at home or having a different grown-up be available for the phase-in period.

Q: Why are the walls so bare? Where are the "toys"?

A: C&C is simple by design, offering children a chance to work with open-ended materials both in the classroom and outside.  

Q: Can a visiting relative come during drop-off and hang out for a while to see the classroom?

A: Yes, just let us know in advance.  Teachers will also eventually ask for all grown-ups to leave once the children are engaged in their work.

Q: Is it okay if my child is not quite potty trained?

A: We anticipate that the IIs will still be working on potty training, but we do expect the IIIs to be potty trained before the start of the school year.  We will always offer assistance to children who are using the toilet at school, and we also help children change clothes when necessary. 

Q: What should we be doing at home to reinforce what my child is learning in school?

A: Talk with your children, read to your children, and display a genuine interest in whatever they choose to share about school.  Some children may have a lot to say while others may prefer to keep their school life separate from home.  Ask your child specific questions, such as, “who did you sit next to at snack?” or “did you paint today?”

Q: What happens if I'm late picking up my child?

A: If possible, please call ahead and let the front desk know you are running late.  Someone will always stay with your child until you arrive.